Abusive Boyfriend
If you have an abusive boyfriend, you need to end the relationship. An abusive boyfriend will become an abusive spouse. If they are willing to show the signs of being an abuser early in a relationship, the odds are against you. While there are some men who have totally changed their personalities to cease abusive behavior, the vast majority of them do not. As well, having an abusive boyfriend will damage your self esteem, and leave emotional scars that will take many years to ease.
If you are uncertain of whether or not you have an abusive boyfriend, there are several characteristics or red flags that you can look for. Below, you will find a list and the explanation of why these characteristics are signs of an abusive boyfriend.
1: Does your boyfriend try to control you?
An abusive boyfriend will jealously guard what is theirs. Often, they are afraid of being left, so will do everything in their power to prevent their partner from breaking off the relationship. Your social circle may be interrupted, you may be accused of cheating, and you may be told that you may not be friends with certain people. This form of control is a very large red flag that should not be ignored.
2: Does he get easily angry?
A short temper can be very dangerous in a relationship. The shorter the temper, the more likely that an abusive boyfriend will resort to physical abuse.
3: Does he throw things, hit walls, or hit you?
An abusive boyfriend who takes out his frustrations on objects, animals, or people, is someone to be avoided. Sure, you may love him, but domestic violence can lead to death or hospitalization.
4: Is he quick to degrade you?
Verbal abuse is nothing to scoff at. An abusive boyfriend will use every means possible to control you and intimidate or dominate. While verbal abuse does not leave physical wounds, it can leave emotional ones that take years to heal.
If you are in a situation where you have an abusive boyfriend, seek help. There are hot lines, support groups, and reading materials dedicated to the subject. You can also rely on your friends to assist you. But, above all, get out of the relationship. It may not be easy at first, but an abusive boyfriend will not be able to provide what you need for a happy, healthy lifestyle in the future.