Abusive Partners
Abusive partners can cause many problems in relationships. First and foremost, having abusive partners can cause a great deal of emotional damage. Whether the abuse is physical, sexual or verbal, the victim of abuse will often feel useless, unloved, or have a strong fear of being left alone. Often, the victims of abusive partners do not wish to be abused, but do not see any way out of the situation. This is extremely dangerous for the victim, as abuse tends to worsen over time.
Abusive partners tend to share several traits. First, they have a strong desire to control their partner out of jealous and fear of abandonment. They are often addicted to drugs or alcohol, and have aggressive personalities. Abusive partners will attempt to hide abuse from friends and family out of fear that they will be abandoned.
Unfortunately, abusive partners were typically victims of abuse themselves. In many causes, abusive partners escaped being abused and attempted to start over, resulting in them treating their partners as they were treated. This generational abuse pattern is very common, as most people who are abused never receive the therapy that they need in order to overcome the abuse they have suffered.
Those who are victims of abusive partners may also have personality traits that do not help them stay out of abusive relationships. Those abused are typically shy and withdrawn and have very little courage to escape the situation. They are afraid of being alone, which only fuels the flames. They are extremely tolerant, and feel high amounts of shame, so they tend to hide evidence that abuse is going on.
Often, it takes friends helping or family for victims to escape abusive partners. If you know someone who is being abused, there are things that you can do to help. There are hot lines that can be called, resources that can be read and handed out, as well as organizations designed to help those being abused. However, it is also important that the victim tries to help themselves. If you know someone who is being abused, you need to be supportive of them and help acquire the assistance that they need to safely leave the situation. Safety should also be a top priority, as abusive partners will feel threatened and may become violent if their victim is taken away from them.
If you are the victim of abusive partners and domestic violence is occurring, it is vital that you seek professional help immediately.